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Being Present is to be free of thoughts about the past or future. You are focused on what's happening now. Your feelings are calm. Your reflexes are fast. Your wit is quick. You are decisive. You know what you want. You know what's right for you. You perform your best - public speaking, sports, music. Your confidence is deep. You know you're not perfect so you are forgiving of your weaknesses. Your memory is strong when you are in the present. You can recall times you were fully present because they are very clear in your memory. All of you was in the "here and now" - in a first love, on a great vacation, with a trusted friend. Most people rely on external situations in which they feel safe, in order to be present. You are truly capable of living in the present when you feel safe even in difficult, stressful, anxious situations - when people criticize you, when you make dumb mistakes, when you are in financial or lovelife crises. Answers "pop" into your mind. Most of us are quite present when we first wake up. We "sleep" on our challenges. Then we wake up and we simply "know" what's right for us. This is our spirituality speaking to us. Then we move forward in confidence. A racing mind is evidence of a poor ability to be present. This condition disconnects us from our inner knowing. We experience inner conflict and second-guessing - struggling to be true to ourselves, yet afraid others will hurt us if we do. Accidents happen more often, and people we love feel unloved by us, because we're 'absent'. Being present is the time frame of your mind. There are only three time frames possible - past, present and future. Once you become aware of the thoughts you are having and the content of those thoughts, you will notice which timeframe you are in at any given time. You will begin to notice how often your thoughts and feelings are focused on the past or the future. Many people spend less than 1% of their time living in the present. Being present is a holistic experience. Your mind, body, heart and soul are all unified in that one moment. Time slows down. You are connecting with the eternal force of the universe. In fact, the definition of eternity is the present moment. It has never NOT been the present moment, just as God has never not existed. Being present happens when you stop comparing ('judging') the present moment to past experiences or future expectations. The result of this is a feeling of love and inner peace. Regardless of what other people are doing or what situation you are facing, you are centered and calm. No one can do this all the time. The goal of being present is to be able to move towards being at peace inside even when your life is full of unwelcome conflicts and crises. Your ability to Be Present depends on the health of your boundaries. In any given moment, you can move from being fully present to being filled with upsetting thoughts that trigger emotions based on the past and future. It happens in an instant and is highly dependent on how good your boundaries are. If you have weak boundaries, you will either lash out or crumble. Both result in conflict and unhappiness rooted in past and future-based thoughts and feelings. Being present begins with NOTICING when you are trying to alter the present moment and learning what you can do about it. You are moving from seeing yourself as a victim of circumstances to a decisive person who makes wise choices in difficult, uncertain and even scary situations. Your self-confidence and self-trust grow tremendously, as does your faith. Our coaching services are used by people who want to navigate a current crisis to make wiser responses and have no regrets, not matter what ends up happening. The book, "What's Important Now" teaches six strategies on how to notice and do what's important now to be as good as you can be, when it really matters! When you trust yourself to hold your ground when it's right, and give it away when it's not, your self-confidence rises dramatically. The book, "The Non-Judgmental Christian" teaches five lessons to revolutionize your relationships with people close to you. This book reveals how judgments are the buttons that people push which stop you from being present. Being non-judgmental is a core means of being present-moment focused so you can be as good as you can with your children, parents, friends, spouse and co-workers. "Anyway" is a practical, spiritual workshop that is a warm, insightful and action-oriented workshop for people who want to be as good as they can be by being present. The Miracle of Non-Judgment is an all-day workshop that teaches tools & techniques to respond better in-the-moment to difficult people situations.
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