Boundaries are your personal space versus the personal space of others.  At home, your fence defines the boundary between you and your neighbour.  Your locked bathroom door defines your boundary while you are relieving yourself.  Your possession of the same chair at the dinner table defines your boundary while eating.

When your emotions are triggered, that is your built-in warning signal that your boundaries are in danger.  When someone cuts you off while driving, ding-ding!  When someone butts in line in front of you, ding-ding!  When someone breaks their promise to you, showing up late, or not doing what they said they'd do, DING-DING!

All conflict traces to boundary battles.  We each want our own way.  You want sex like this.  Your partner wants it like that.  You want this kind of financial priority.  Your partner wants a different financial priority.  How you resolve it will reflect a choice between love or fear.

The choice you make will happen in the PRESENT MOMENT.   The method you choose will use JUDGMENTS that lead you to be a doormat, or to hammer the person threatening your boundaries.

With better boundaries, you learn to defend your space and respect the rights of others to do the same.  From there, true love emerges, a deep love anchored spiritually in your relationship with God, and alive in the present moment with each person in your life.

Present Living Mission teaches people how to resolve boundary battles.   When you learn how to solve boundary battles respectfully yet truthfully, you uncover love from the inside .    Jesus is our role model.  His words and actions teach us what loving boundaries look like.  While we can't be that perfect, we can aim ourselves in the direction of true love, and not fear.   The apostle John wrote, "There is no fear in love."  (1John 3:18)   This is good news for those of us who want to be lovers, and not anxious or unhappy.

Present Living offers a workshop called "Watermelon Boundaries."  Contact us to find out how to bring this workshop to your organization or church group.