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Falling in Love...is a present moment experience! |
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Falling in love. Ah-h-h-h. Most of us want it or want it again. We love the feeling. Warm, excited, filled with joy, passion and lust for each other. Confident and trusting that this is the one person we can relay on, trust, reveal ourselves. We can be real and they will love us anyway. They'll love our lumps and bumps. Our quirky habits and wacky family. Be impressed with what we do, what we've done. Feel excited about our goals and dreams. Want to help us achieve those dreams. Falling in love is the closest experience to what it is to live fully in the present. No one daydreams about work and to-do lists while they're falling in love. No one forgets to show up on a date or dresses like a slob. Not if they're really in love. They remember "What's Important Now". Their lover is what is important now. Of course it can't continue at a breakneck pace. Work, life, family all mix in. But what matters is THE BEGINNING. Falling in love with someone who is right for the REAL YOU. Not just who looks good, or impresses your friends. Someone who fits your life, your beliefs, your values. When you fall in love, what is falling? It's your walls, of course! You are letting down your walls. Letting someone see the REAL you. Letting yourself feel attached to someone else. You are excited because you are ALIVE! You are scared because you are at RISK! They could dump you, turn on you, use what you've told them (your innermost secrets) to hurt you, tell all your friends about how needy, weak, shallow, cranky, demanding, fussy or slob-like you really are. Yes - falling in love is dangerous. If you find it difficult to let down your guard, take down your walls, reveal who you are, and accept others as they are, you will have a very difficult time falling in love. If you are too picky, looking for Mr. Right or Ms. Right, you will not fall in love. The reason is simple. They're not good enough. Why? Because you are not good enough. At least, not in your own mind. You are hoping Mr. Perfect or Ms. Perfect will make you perfect - good enough to love and be loved. Has it worked so far? If you want to fall in love, you must learn how to be vulnerable and intimate. Learning to be present teaches you exactly that. Because when you're fully present, you are REAL. What you think and feel, you reveal. You have nothing to hide, nothing to prove, nothing to lose. What is it worth to you to learn how to be intimate, real and vulnerable? To feel love, give love, receive love? Here is bad news for you and good news, too. The bad news is - love is not "out there" in another person. The good news is - love is "in here" - inside yourself, aching to come out if you are willing to dare to be Real, intimate and vulnerable. Learning to be present teaches you how to be intimate by teaching you how to be tougher - on the inside. Then, you will trust yourself enough to let down your walls and experience Real Love that lasts... Read about our four coaching programs that teach you the twelve doorways of The W.I.N. Way to Present Living. You spent a lifetime learning how to be cautious and wary of love - don't think a one day workshop will quick fix it.
If you want to change for real, for love, we can help. Contact
John at 1-877-688-6326 for a free 30 minute consultation on how
You can also join a W.I.N.
Telegroup - a low cost way to learn to love by Teleconference call twice
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