Real Parenting is a blend of tender love... and tough love

Parenting for most of us is our highest achievement.  Our children are our legacy, our gift to the world.  We live forever because of our children.  

For some reason, they don't realize that!  All they see is you, standing in their way.  They can be needy, irresponsible, demanding, cranky...and lovable, adoring, loving, giving.  Children are God's gift to us as parents.

Parenting is like being the boss.  You have authority.  How you use that authority, and the way in which you make decisions and treat your children will have an enormous influence on how they respond to you.  If you can learn to change the way you react to your children when they "trigger" you - annoy, frustrate, upset, irritate - you will influence them in a major and positive way.

With love.  One present moment at a time.

You will learn the two keys to serenity parenting in the present moment.  The principles is always the same.  How to focus on being present.  How to make one of two wise choices that positively influence your kids - not by forcing them nor by caving in to them

You learn two choices to lovingly and impactfully change the way you parent your children.  Are there times you roll over when you should RESIST?  Saying one thing, then giving in because the hassle was just too much?  That's a problem and you're the one participating - cooperating - in the problem.

Are there times you dig in no matter what?  What would happen if you decided to SUPPORT what your child wants?  Do you think supporting equals rolling over?  If so, you're in for a big surprise.  To support is to accept.  To accept is to love.  Accepting is the single most powerful instrument for motivating change in another person.   Don't just take my word for it.  Read the Paradoxical Theory of Change, a summary of the work of the famed psychotherapist Dr. Fritz Perls, founder of Gestalt Therapy. 

When you accept another person, you make it safe for them to change.  They take down their emotional walls, and they stop seeing the argument as an ego battle of wills over who's right and who's wrong.  It really works.

But there's a catch.  You have to be real.  That means REAL CHANGE by you.   Do you want to be a better parent enough to consider coaching?  That is the question that only you can answer.   Would you spend real money to learn how to make those changes?  Present Living's Be You Coaching teaches you how to love your children so you can be you and they can be who they are...with boundaries that help them grow up successfully.

Send us an email if you want to know more, or call 1-877-688-6326.

 

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